STOP KILLING YOURSELF
This topic might seem strange, but as strange as it seems, the reality of you unconsciously harming yourself is not far-fetched. Most of us unconsciously do things that will leave us winding up unhappy in life. Our world view is loaded with faulty ideas in its lots and it doesn’t take ‘too’ long for us to realize we’ve spent the most part of our lives living on the wrong side of life – some don’t ever realize this
till they are close their grave.
In order to escape this web of self-destruct however, one has to dig
deep, look within and re-structure one’s philosophies of life. We might want to
part ways with some false ideas- especially those we hold unto tenaciously – and
stop killing ourselves. You might want to ask, how am I killing myself?
BEING
SOMEONE ELSE
The thing about dropping the real you and assuming a whole new role
alien to you, is that you are saying that the real you is not good enough – and
what better way is there to kill one’s self than that. You feel you have to be
someone else to be accepted. This is false!
“If people don’t like you for who you
are, you are simply in the wrong company”- Chris Ellis. It’s hard when
not everyone is like you, this gives you a hard time fitting in, and hence you
take up the personality mask. I have to tell you however that, only a few
people are like you. You’re not like anyone else and shouldn’t expect to be. Go
find your group, people who share the same ideas.
FIGHTING
YOURSELF
“My nose is too big” “I am not good enough” “I don’t think I’ll ever be
better than this”
Most of us waste otherwise useful time picking on ourselves, killing
ourselves with the bad things we think of ourselves. A wise man once said: “you don’t go into a battle with your
dagger pointing inwards” You don’t need to help stupid people cut you up.
You think those thoughts because someone has told you so. People who tell you
these things are not your friends. Your friends shouldn’t make you love
yourself any less, ditch people who make you feel worthless!
BEING AFRAID
TO FAIL
Sadly, almost all of us are afraid of failing. We take extra care and
avoiding taking risks oblivious of the fact that we are taking a greater risk
by not taking risks. The problem with people, as I have come to realize is that
most people don’t know the definition of failure. Failure is not the absence of
mistakes. Failure is quitting, it is stopping. Thomas Edison had over ten thousand tries on the light bulb before he got a
breakthrough. When asked how it felt to have failed that much, he replied, “I
never failed, it just happened to be a ten thousand step journey” Don’t be scared of failure, get out there and do your thing.
BLAMING
OTHERS
If there’s meant to always be someone to blame for anything that happens
to you, it’s you. You are responsible for whatever happens to you. Your friend
pushed you into doing something bad, well, you let them! You have to stop
finger pointing! You cause the good and bad things that happen to you, you just
have to fix the bad things and get on with life. You have to take
responsibility for what happens to you.
BEING
ENVIOUS
People who are envious seek to tear down those who have something they
don’t have and want. When you destroy someone else, you destroy yourself. Call
it the boomerang effect, that’s the truth about life. If you like something
about someone, go to that person and learn from them. You don’t have to hate on
them because they have what you don’t.
HAVING FIXED
IDEAS ABOUT THINGS
A fixed idea can be as simple as “all Igbos are fraudsters”
If you don’t look at things critically, you won’t know the truth about
them. The world itself is dynamic and not evasive to change. Things change.
People change. If you don’t see things as they really are, it’s a pity you’re
living a lie. Probe things, test those old beliefs and see if they hold water,
if not, they are better suited for the trash.
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